I am the worst at this. I have such an open line of communication with my children the lines get blurred when for me. Its hard to shift from, we tell each other everything, such as the first time they think they are going to have sex and need my help to understand better what that means for them, the first bottle of Smirnoff that made my son puke, the minute they smoked pot, my boys know they can come to me with anything and we will talk through the good and bad and how to protect themselves when they do try things that teenagers try..... I'm happy to guide them and explain consequence and risk. Happy to say, even though it scares me sometimes, we have an open line of commutation. The bottom line -for me its safer to know what is going on with your teenager than to be the parent who they live in fear of and they do things and hide them from you. One thing I know for sure, if my boys get in trouble, I will be the first call and vise versa.
But I have made a lot of mistakes letting them know my struggles when Dad changes parenting agreements, doesn’t pay or late on child support payments and such. I have told them way to much. It’s a difficult balance and I am no saint. But both my boys love their dad, and that’s the end all be all goal. Forgive yourself. Your journey is your own. No one knows what you have been through but you. No one is perfect. Just keep trying to do your best every day.
We love you for that. We know it's not easy. We know some days are better than others, we know it's hard, but you got this. XX Gretchen
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